How Well-Adjusted Is Your Marriage? Short Test

The following quiz is based on the Locke-Wallace Marital Adjustment Test. A measurement that has been extensively tested for accuracy and validity.

This quiz is accredited to John Gottman in “The Marriage Clinic”

Disclaimer: taking this quiz and/or sharing the results with your partner may result in conflict with your partner. In the case of marital conflict please find a well-trained marriage therapist.

On the following continuum, how do you feel about your marriage: (circle a number)

0               2               7               15               20               25               35

Very Unhappy                          Happy                                 Perfectly Happy

_____________ place # here

How often do you and your partner disagree on the following issues.

Mark 0 if you always disagree

Mark 1 if you almost always disagree

Mark 2 if you frequently disagree

Mark 3 if you occasionally disagree

Mark 4 if you almost always agree

Mark 5 if you always agree

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A)   Money                                                            _____________ place # here

B)   Play/How to spend Free Time                _____________ place # here

C)   Friends                                                          _____________ place # here

D)   Proper public behavior                             _____________ place # here

E)   Beliefs about life                                         _____________ place # here

F)    In-Laws                                                       _____________ place # here

__________________________________________________________

G)   How you show affection                          _____________ place # here

  1. 8 Always Agree
  2. 6 Almost Always Agree
  3. 4 Occasionally Disagree
  4. 2 Frequently Disagree
  5. 1 Almost Always Disagree
  6. 0 Always Disagree

H)   Sex (Circle One)                                        _____________ place # here

  1. 15 Always Agree
  2. 12 Almost Always Agree
  3. 9 Occasionally Disagree
  4. 4 Frequently Disagree
  5. 1 Almost Always Disagree
  6. 0 Always Disagree

I)     Disagreements usually end with          _____________ place # here

  1. 0 Husband giving in
  2. 2 Wife giving in
  3. 10 Agreement through compromise

J)     Do you and your partner spend your free       _____________ place # here

time together?

  1. 10 All of it
  2. 8 some of it
  3. 3 very few of it
  4. 0 none of it

K)   During free time you generally prefer

  1. To be on the go
  2. To stay at home

L)    During free time your partner generally prefers       _____________ place # here

  1. To be on the go
  2. To stay at home

(for K & L award : 10 for both stay at home / 3 for both on the go / 2 for a disagreement)

M)  Do you ever wish you did not marry                      _____________ place # here

  1. 0 frequently
  2. 3 occasionally
  3. 8 rarely
  4. 15 never

N)   If you could do it over again; you would              _____________ place # here

  1. 15 marry the same person
  2. 0 marry a different person
  3. 1 not marry at all

O)   Do you ever confide in your partner?                   _____________ place # here

  1. 0 almost never
  2. 2 rarely
  3. 10 in most things
  4. 10 in everything

______________Total

This quiz, similar to an IQ test, has a mean of 100, and a standard deviation of 15.

85  indicates a marriage that is considered to be in trouble

100 Indicates a marriage that is at the average level of satisfaction

115 indicates a very healthy marriage.

130 and higher indicates an exceptionally happy marriage.

Note: Couples within the first 5 years of marriage usually score 15-20 points higher than couples married longer than 5 years.

If you wish your marriage was more satisfying to you, be encouraged that there is a substantial amount of research that has taught us what makes a marriage fail or succeed. Find a therapist who specializes, or has experience in treating couples.

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